The heart is located almost in the center of the chest, between the lungs. And, it's the most important organs in the human body.
Sometimes we tend to tell ourselves that mending a broken heart is never easy. We declare in our hearts that there's no quick step to stop from hurting. Have you experienced being so self-pity?
Let me share with you how to patched up when things go wrong. God is so good, as He allow us to experience the pain for us to grow a better person.
Stop loving isn’t an option. Author Henri Nouwen writes, “When those you love deeply reject you, leave you, or die, your heart will be broken. But that should not hold you back from loving deeply. The pain that comes from deep love makes your love ever more fruitful.”
Here are the things on how to mend a broken heart.
1. Create a new world
If before you have a routine that both of you are doing try to obsolete those and create a new world. Saying no to common friends is a great start. Creating new world is doing things differently. If both of you go lunch together this time go lunch with your friends or change your eating time.
Detach yourself with that person emotionally or physically. If you guys are officemates be professional and only discuss with work related matters. Create new things, new routine, new stuff to be done without him.
2. Finding a new you
Do you have a dream? Go grab that dream. If you fond of wearing pants try to find a new you. Wear skirts and formal attires. This will enhance your confidence. Finding a new you does'nt really mean you hide the old you but it just simply means putting and picking the pisces that was broken. Do something for yourself and have a twist. Do not impressed and pleased everybody. Finding new stuff is just being yourself.
3. Be a blessing to others
Doing things for others will mend a broken heart. I tell you it's effective and it will give you meaning and purpose why you have to go through things. If someone is strugling the same pain as yours and you lend your hands towards them believe pain will miracously go away. Listen to their problems and heartaches and it will boast your heart in gladness. Feeling differently is definitely guaranteed.
4. Laugh until you cry
Watch comedy movies, adventure and laugh until you cry. Healing a broken heart is simply smiling even at your worst. You need to manage to carry yourself. My friends always give time with me and same with them as well. Talk to your friends about funny stuffs until morning.
5. Holding onto hope
Hope is not trying to attempt to find someone to fill in the emptiness. Or trying to win his or her back again. But hope is that one day things will fall into its proper places. Love until you are ready. Love and wait for someone who truly deserve your love.
6. Gather your strengths
Your greatest asset is yourself. Inorder for you to stay strong and manage things orderly list down all your strength as this will help you get through things.
If your strength is making others smile do it in a daily basis. Suddenly the pain in your heart will be converted to happiness. List top 10 of your inner and outer strenght will do. You cried before and others may judge you and forsake you but pull back and regain by doing things better.
7. Spend quality time with yourself
Being alone doesn't mean your lonely. It's an opportunity of every individual to know her and his personality better.Travelling by yourself is effective and you'll see how tough you are being independent. If you learn to have quality time with yourself the more you understand other people.
There was one time I went somewhere else by myself it was an accomplishment, that I can do travel and have vacation by myself.
Stop blaming yourself or him. Just think that it's part of God's plan. If something closes another one opens for bigger opportunity. Everything happens for a reason. It's not that easy but we need to be strong and move forward as life is beautiful.
8. Have Faith in God
Lastly, having faith will definitely mend a broken heart. He has plan for us and all we need to do is wait in His time.
When you are in a hurry the tendency is we missed something. Have you noticed that? Probably you experienced that thing. I'm 29 years old now but I have Faith in God so if your hurting God will heal that wound in your heart. Whatever uour coming through God has His Ways. Trust in Him.
"Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart."